Emily Nearing, Matoma | It's important to see Emilie Nearing, Matoma and King Harald crying on TV

You're absolutely right, Organ Griff Johnsen, there are more tears on screen today than there were 10-20 years ago. And we should be happy about that!

Newspapers and TV producers deliberately use crying because, as Emily Nearing pointed out in her discussion post, emotions touch and interact, so crying is used as clickbait.

Seeing others cry in public normalizes the true and fully inclusive expression of emotion. Crying has an important function because tears act as a safety valve that releases overwhelming emotions and ensures we receive social support.

This is the discussion:

1. Read Orjan Greve Johansen's review here: Why should we know that Emily Nearing cries on 'Farmen Kjendis'?
2. Read Emily Nehring's answer here: This was my sole agenda during the celebrity interview with Pharmin

Need to talk about feelings

“Feel little,” Johnson writes, “and if you have to feel life and death, feel isolated or surrounded by those closest to you.”

you are wrong.

We don't call ourselves sick, and we shouldn't hide the fact that we cry because you're tired of tears on screen. We need to feel, we need to talk about feelings, and we need to be open about feelings.

Every day, my health care colleagues and I work to ensure that your positions prevail.

We experience that many children and young people put a lid on their feelings. Many people hide sadness behind an angry mask or put on a fake smile because they find it difficult to show weakness and talk about bad feelings.

We know that it can cause mental illness in adults.

We should not feel inferior, and certainly not alone!

Loss of emotional competence

Health nurses normalize all emotions, and our emotions, just like life in general, rise and fall.

It's completely normal to feel down without being depressed, and it's normal to feel anxious and angry without it meaning you have ADHD. It's also normal to cry when you feel too much.

Over the years, our attitude toward crying has varied as much as the weather in January. There were periods when crying was limited to heroic men of higher rank, and was then considered a sign of weakness, before tears were once again seen as something noble and manly.

After the 19th century, gender roles became polarized and crying became feminized. Male tears, so evident in earlier times on stage, have been erased in literature and art, replaced by devastating phrases such as “Big boys don't cry.”

This continued, and led to the boys losing a lot of emotional competence, because they had no space to cry or express their feelings or had no language to express their feelings.

Girls had more room to cry, but were sometimes labeled as weak, irrational, or manipulative when they cried in public.

That's why it's so important to see Emilie Nering, Matoma, and King Harald crying on prime-time television. Because when we see celebrities cry, it gives us greater acceptance of our tears.

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