HA new study looked into what is considered more attractive on dating apps. The results reveal that those who show genuine interest in the other person on their profile appear more attractive, according to the British newspaper “Daily Mail”. Forskning.no.
– They showed that expressing interest in a dating profile to get to know the other person is more attractive than if you expressed a desire for the other person to get to know you, dating researcher Marius Stavang told the newspaper.
The study, published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, shows that the vast majority of people care more about giving swimmers of the preferred gender a favorable impression of their identity. Thus one forgets what researchers have discovered to be the most important thing for success.
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– People want to feel seen and understood, so they look for partners who want to get to know them and support them. But since others want it too, most end up writing less attractive personal texts, says study author Juliana Schroeder in her article. press release.
The researchers found that profile texts that were worded in a way that focused on the attacker, rather than themselves, were considered significantly more attractive. More important than making sure others get to know you is showing that you are interested in getting to know others.
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The same study shows that satisfaction in relationships is directly related to how well you feel like your partner really knows you, and reveals that survey respondents have a deeper connection with those they feel they know best, rather than those they feel they know best.
“Feeling understood by your partner is very important in order to feel emotionally connected to each other in a relationship,” sexologist and marriage therapist Camilla Sorensen tells KK.
You learn that efforts to truly understand and know your partner are absolutely essential to emotional connection, and are an essential component of a well-functioning marriage.
Marriage Therapist: Camilla Sorensen is very passionate about being good at offering appreciation and understanding to your partner. Photo: private
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What couples miss most when they come to couples therapy is feeling seen and acknowledged by their partner. Recognition is magic in relationships! You can stop the escalation of conflict and you can grow closer to your partner if you learn this. Your partner will then feel understood, which is something everyone basically needs, Sorensen explains.
A couples therapist thinks it's a good idea to show a potential partner that you actually want to get to know them on your profile.
– Since this is important for couples to feel emotionally connected to each other, it makes sense that this would work well on apps. If you ask me, I think this will make it easier to attract relationships in the digital dating market as well, Sorensen says.
– I hope it's the same
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Previously, KK wrote about an Happening survey in which half of users responded that they had bad experiences on dating apps. The common denominator was that the other only cared about himself. The study also shows that you have a greater chance of success if you are more interested in the other person.
– There was a majority who expressed a desire to be recognized by the other, but almost no one expressed a desire to get to know the other, although that was the most attractive thing, says Stavang. no.
“What's interesting is that this goes a little against our cultural perception that we should be 'fussy,' backwards, and not very interested,” says Stavang.
He also believes that expressing interest in others will improve your dating profile in real life. Sexologist Camilla Sorensen also advises presenting oneself in an authentic way and dating appropriately:
– Be clear about your values and what you want from dating, and have a concrete goal for using dating apps. This avoids small daily rushes that lead to nothing, she advises.
-Other than that, it's important to have real photos of yourself in a few different situations, preferably in line with your values and interests! I concluded that it worked better than “photo models” lined up with the same expression and pose on everyone.
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